do you ever feel like you're doing everything wrong?
like everything you do is never right, or will get better?
it honestly is the worst feeling to me.
and, i feel that way the majority of the time as a mom.
i never really pictured myself being a mom while I was growing up, much less being a good one.
and in a world where the outside image is worth more than the inside.. well, it’s hard to go through that world, and always try to measure up to your own view of what perfection is, much less every else's.
i have this awful habit of concentrating on the bad things, and letting it go.
and it just builds. and builds. and builds.
b o o m.
and that doesn’t help, or make anyone in our family happy. ever.
but being a mom is hard.
you know, i had this idea in my head that, yeah, it seems quite difficult, but you deal with the problems and move on.
but i never realize just how plain a g o n i z i n g it can be at times.
and in the beginning it was fine.
i loved having this perfect newborn in my arms.
then that newborn grew into a toddler.
and that toddler grew into a two, almost three-ager, and somedays, well, I quite literally want to pull every single hair out, one at a time because that would be less painful than hearing him cry, scream, or whine just one more time.
somedays, I feel like this evil little gnome has crawled inside my perfect, precious boy.
no for reals.
one minute, i'll be looking at his completely swoon-worthy chubby cheeked face, with his cute little teeth, perfect button nose, and the most beautiful caramelized eyes I have ever seen, and then the next minute all I see is this scary creature staring back at me.
shrieking like a little banshee because I didn’t get the cheese out fast enough.
or because he wanted to wear his slip on “piderman shoes” when there is 20 feet of snow outside.
or because I didn’t let him play “crossy road” on my phone.
and for that brief moment, I break.
i tell myself..
I can’t do this.
I can’t ever be alone. I can never seem to get enough sleep. My body hurts. My house is always a mess. My clothes are always covered in something. I can never talk on the phone without hearing screams, even though he was perfectly content playing by himself 2 seconds prior. I can’t eat alone. I can’t shower alone. I can’t read a book alone. I can’t go to the bathroom alone. I can’t just run into the thrift store, or Sephora for a few minutes without having to cater to a raging monster freaking out. I can’t stop stubbing my toes on his giant tractors or trucks..
and then everything goes quiet after shouting “ow” from hitting those freaking trucks for the millionth time..
then I hear his footsteps running up the stairs to me, yelling,
“Oh no! You okay, Mom?! You okay?!”
and my entire mind stops spinning.
and I remember him running and jumping up on our bed while I'm trying to blog, and attempting to cover us up under the blankets saying, “Hide, Mom! Hide from Dad!"
i remember him grabbing his blankies, sippy, paci, + chase, to come and snuggle with me on the couch while I am reading.
i remember him hearing me tell Keagan I wanted a bagel, so he ran to the kitchen to bring me the entire bag of bagels + the strawberry cream cheese that I love from the fridge.
i remember him seeing Jennifer Lawrence on the TV, and him shouting, "MOM! You on the show!". (thats real love folks)
i remember him hugging me, and brushing my tears away, and saying, "It's okay, mom. It's okay" when I read a letter my dad had written me before he passed away.
i remember him always saying sorry to me whenever he bumped into me, or when i step / trip / fall on his stuff and hurt myself.
i remember him always wanting to help me stand up if I was having a hard day.
i remember the first time he said, “I love you, mama”.
i remember that creeper smile he does when he wants to make me laugh.
i remember him trying to sing me back to sleep one night he crawled into bed with us.
i remember that my life is damn good.
i remember that I made an amazing kid, with the most amazing man.
i remember that I love my boys.
and all of the hardships, the guilt, the pain, the sadness, the anger, the self-pity just melts away.
i might get things wrong somedays, but the one thing i know i did right, was becoming a wife, and mom.
being a mom is hard.
but i wouldn’t give it up for a n y t h i n g.